Category Archives: widow

Has life handed me my last chapter?

In November, just after my birthday, and after eight months of dealing with progressively crippling bone pain, I was handed the medical diagnosis of breast cancer that had metastasized into my bones. This is a mother fucker because for months … Continue reading

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Trying to psyche out a holiday funk

Damn the holidays. Heading into my third holiday season as a widow, I’m still struggling to enjoy the traditions of Christmas and the celebration of a new year. To add to my Yuletide anxiety this year are the memories of … Continue reading

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Nights out with the boys — my husband’s boys

For all our married years, Tom and I had scores of nights out together, but we also had nights out separately. I went out with girlfriends — to bars, movies, outings he had no interest in — while he went … Continue reading

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Dealing with keepsakes from a happy marriage

  Lately I’ve been going through Tom and my keepsake boxes. These nondescript, plastic bins have been sitting in the cold, damp cellar of the basement for nearly 30 years. Recently, two and half years after Tom died, I figured … Continue reading

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Grief leads to a broken heart — literally

(I took this blog down as I thought it was getting published elsewhere. I first posted it here in mid-April). But that didn’t work out, so I’m re-posting it to keep it with the others. The problem is the blog … Continue reading

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