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Category Archives: single middle-age woman
Traveling alone has its charms
I’m traveling alone — not totally alone as I have a couple relatives in town. But I have my own little, and I mean little, AirBNB. And I don’t see these relatives much. They have their own routines here and … Continue reading
Venting about relationships on a perfect summer night
I got socked in the gut the other day with a revelation from a guy I’ve been seeing for about three months. After hearing what was going on with him, I felt introspective and sad and wanted a strong drink. … Continue reading
Time marches on — eventfully
A thought I’ve been having lately is how much has happened both on the world stage and in my personal life since Tom died in early 2012. I live day to day, week by week and don’t think much is going on. … Continue reading
Trying to psyche out a holiday funk
Damn the holidays. Heading into my third holiday season as a widow, I’m still struggling to enjoy the traditions of Christmas and the celebration of a new year. To add to my Yuletide anxiety this year are the memories of … Continue reading
Posted in comforts, single middle-age woman, Uncategorized, widow, widowhood
Tagged doom and gloom, holiday memories, holidays alone
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The Detroit Symphony Orchestra, Ben Folds and Me
I recently had a notion to see singer songwriter Ben Folds when I learned he was coming to my city. I’ve liked him for years for his catchy, clever, sometimes dark, and quirky pop tunes. But I respect him even more for his … Continue reading
Nights out with the boys — my husband’s boys
For all our married years, Tom and I had scores of nights out together, but we also had nights out separately. I went out with girlfriends — to bars, movies, outings he had no interest in — while he went … Continue reading
Posted in dating after widowhood, single middle-age woman, Uncategorized, widow, widow dating
Tagged going out, male friends, widow
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From widow to comfortably single – a slow evolution
I’m starting to become comfortably single. I don’t think about people seeing me as alone or the poor widow anymore. I don’t see myself that way so much. I’m not focused on living alone or eating alone. Most of the … Continue reading
Posted in being single, comfortable, eating alone, living alone, single middle-age woman, widowhood
Tagged adjustment, comfortable, making progress, single, widow
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My wonderful world of women friends
What would I do without my girlfriends? They have always been very important, and I put considerable effort into keeping lifelong pals along with cultivating new ones as I’ve moved through my adult life. But at no time have my … Continue reading
Widowhood: The adjustment of eating alone
After becoming an empty-nest widow or divorcee, you come to the realization that you will be frequently eating alone. You can’t really go out to eat every night (well, I suppose some could) and getting take-out still means you are … Continue reading
Posted in being sick alone, eating alone, grief, living alone, single middle-age woman
Tagged eating alone, widowhood
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Is the second year harder than the first?
About a year after Tom died, I felt a bit of relief from grieving. It was my goal to get through that first year, thinking I’d feel better afterward. Well, I felt the weight of the sadness lift and, shortly … Continue reading
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