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Category Archives: grief
Has life handed me my last chapter?
In November, just after my birthday, and after eight months of dealing with progressively crippling bone pain, I was handed the medical diagnosis of breast cancer that had metastasized into my bones. This is a mother fucker because for months … Continue reading
Posted in acceptance, being single, faith, grief, importance of girlfriends, Uncategorized, widow, widowhood
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Coping with the isolation of an upcoming winter
Argh winter! It is creeping in with each passing day. This will be my third winter without Tom, and I thought this one would be easier, less painful. But as the temperatures dip into the 30s at night and the … Continue reading
Posted in grief, living alone, new experiences, Uncategorized
Tagged cold, grief, isolation, loneliness of winter, miserable
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Losing my religion
In the last couple years, I’ve read stacks of books, articles and blogs on losing a loved one, grieving and dealing with severe illness. Among those on grief: Joan Didion’s “The Year of Magical Thinking,” “A Grief Observed” by C.S. … Continue reading
Widowhood: The adjustment of eating alone
After becoming an empty-nest widow or divorcee, you come to the realization that you will be frequently eating alone. You can’t really go out to eat every night (well, I suppose some could) and getting take-out still means you are … Continue reading
Posted in being sick alone, eating alone, grief, living alone, single middle-age woman
Tagged eating alone, widowhood
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Is the second year harder than the first?
About a year after Tom died, I felt a bit of relief from grieving. It was my goal to get through that first year, thinking I’d feel better afterward. Well, I felt the weight of the sadness lift and, shortly … Continue reading
A bitter pill — dealing with sickness alone
I’ve had health issues most of my life – Type 1 diabetes at nine; ulcerative colitis at 17. These two challenging, genetic autoimmune diseases don’t make for a storybook childhood or an easy adolescence. They didn’t respond well to the … Continue reading
Posted in being sick alone, grief, living alone, new widow, single middle-age woman, widowhood
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To date (or not to date) — your decision
Are you are thinking about putting yourself out there after being with the same spouse for two or three decades? Keep your expectations low, and brace for disappointment. I don’t mean to be too negative here. I know widows who … Continue reading
Posted in grief, living alone, new widow
Tagged dating after widowhood, online dating, singledom
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The Family House — Should I Stay or Should I Go?
I’m lucky enough to have a great house. It was built in 1929 and is rich in detailed plaster, stained and leaded glass and original woodwork. It is roomy and cozy at the same time. By far, it is the … Continue reading
Posted in grief, living alone, new widow, single middle-age woman, widowhood
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The Kids Are Alright
Like the majority of mid-life widows, I have children — a 22-year-old girl and a 28-year-old man. My husband and I put a lot of energy and love into raising those two. He was a great dad who they loved … Continue reading
Posted in grief, living alone, new widow, single middle-age woman, widowhood
Tagged cooking for one, dating, eating alone, loneliness, sad
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The nightmare than can be Sunday
What is it with Sundays — that particular day is worse for a widow than any other. I didn’t like Sundays growing up because I was forced to go to church, and I was often bored with little or nothing … Continue reading
Posted in grief, living alone, new widow, single middle-age woman, widowhood
Tagged eating alone, sad
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