Category Archives: grief

Has life handed me my last chapter?

In November, just after my birthday, and after eight months of dealing with progressively crippling bone pain, I was handed the medical diagnosis of breast cancer that had metastasized into my bones. This is a mother fucker because for months … Continue reading

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Coping with the isolation of an upcoming winter

Argh winter! It is creeping in with each passing day. This will be my third winter without Tom, and I thought this one would be easier, less painful. But as the temperatures dip into the 30s at night and the … Continue reading

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Losing my religion

In the last couple years, I’ve read stacks of books, articles and blogs on losing a loved one, grieving and dealing with severe illness. Among those on grief: Joan Didion’s “The Year of Magical Thinking,” “A Grief Observed” by C.S. … Continue reading

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Widowhood: The adjustment of eating alone

After becoming an empty-nest widow or divorcee, you come to the realization that you will be frequently eating alone. You can’t really go out to eat every night (well, I suppose some could) and getting take-out still means you are … Continue reading

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Is the second year harder than the first?

About a year after Tom died, I felt a bit of relief from grieving. It was my goal to get through that first year, thinking I’d feel better afterward. Well, I felt the weight of the sadness lift and, shortly … Continue reading

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A bitter pill — dealing with sickness alone

I’ve had health issues most of my life – Type 1 diabetes at nine; ulcerative colitis at 17. These two challenging, genetic autoimmune diseases don’t make for a storybook childhood or an easy adolescence. They didn’t respond well to the … Continue reading

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To date (or not to date) — your decision

Are you are thinking about putting yourself out there after being with the same spouse for two or  three decades? Keep your expectations low, and brace for disappointment. I don’t mean to be too negative here. I know widows who … Continue reading

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