Author Archives: Marti Benedetti

About Marti Benedetti

I'm a longtime writer and a widow. I want to share my thoughts and experiences of being single in my 50s and beyond after being married to the same man and raising kids for 28 years. It's not the journey I signed up for, but the one I'm living with. I hope I can offer up some thoughts, chuckles and comfort for those in a similar boat.

A Book Deal, Baby

Call it optimism, doggedness, perseverance, or pure luck, but after working for more than two years on a non-fiction book on dating after widowhood, we landed a signed contract with an agent last week. And it feels sweet. The we … Continue reading

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The diagnosis I fear

Well, here I go. Since being diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer more than two years ago, every test has come back “stable.” This is as good as it gets for this kind of cancer. It means the cancer is … Continue reading

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Living alone — again

My adult daughter finished her teaching job in Michigan in mid-June and soon after moved out of my house. She happily joined life with her boyfriend in Chicago. It made sense. They have been together for more than four years … Continue reading

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Trying to jump start widowhood dating book

After four years of writing this blog on widowhood and other sometimes crazy events I have experienced as a single woman, a friend who is dating a widower suggested we put our heads and writing chops together and co-author a … Continue reading

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Goodbye to the family house but not the memories

After 28 eventful years, I sold the family house and moved precisely two miles northeast to a smaller, more modest 1950s house. It was quite the undertaking emotionally and physically. It started last November, on a rainy, cold day when … Continue reading

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Traveling alone has its charms

I’m traveling alone — not totally alone as I have a couple relatives in town. But I have my own little, and I mean little, AirBNB. And I don’t see these relatives much. They have their own routines here and … Continue reading

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Keep your weaknesses to yourself

The last time I was on an online dating site, I came across a guy who was funny, witty, literate and interesting. It was refreshing and rare. After several email notes back and forth about his career as a criminal … Continue reading

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