Trying to jump start widowhood dating book

After four years of writing this blog on widowhood and other sometimes crazy events I have experienced as a single woman, a friend who is dating a widower suggested we put our heads and writing chops together and co-author a book on dating after widowhood.

Almost two years ago, we began planning for the book and commenced to write — me from my house in the Midwest while recuperating from a cancer diagnosis and her from her house in Washington, D.C. We have a 9 am conference call each Thursday and catch up on what we’ve done to move the book along. We also find out what else is going on in our lives. It has been therapeutic for me during my recuperation, and now that I am feeling better, I still enjoy it.

The book is nearly done and we are now pitching it to agents. This is no small feat as each agent has a varying set of requirements for the pitches. My friend recently attended an afternoon class on how to get your book published. It was full of useful information. We learned what we have done right and what we are doing wrong.

Ultimately, we learned we have to do more work, especially with our involvement in social media. We set up Twitter and Facebook accounts for the book named “Death Did Us Part.” We recently hired someone to help us design a web site. With those three pieces in place, we hope to go back to a couple agents who expressed interest in the book but were disappointed with our “platform.”

A platform is imperative to get an agent interested in a nonfiction book, we learned. We were taken aback as we thought it was the agent’s job to sell the book, but our personalized social media plays a large role. So check out our twitter page: and our facebook: And wish us luck.




About Marti Benedetti

I'm a longtime writer and a widow. I want to share my thoughts and experiences of being single in my 50s and beyond after being married to the same man and raising kids for 28 years. It's not the journey I signed up for, but the one I'm living with. I hope I can offer up some thoughts, chuckles and comfort for those in a similar boat.
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5 Responses to Trying to jump start widowhood dating book

  1. Chris says:

    Good luck with the book!

  2. Raye Holden says:

    I would be very interested in reading the book you are writing. For the most part it is a couples world. No one understands what it is like losing your mate from a long marriage. Many things change in your life, and sad to say it tends to be your friends.

  3. Thanks for you comment, Raye. So many tough changes, especially if you are left alone. We interviewed a lot of folks in our book, and it’s a mixed bag of people doing well and others not so good.

  4. Karen Mantyk says:

    Sad as the subject of your book is, I think it is great that you are getting it out there. I know there are lots of people who are going to find comfort in the book knowing they are not out there alone. Let me know when you are published for people to buy.
    Sorry you could not join us Friday. It was a good turn out and great to see everyone.

  5. Thanks, Karen. Always good to hear from you. I heard I missed a fun family event.

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